Sunday, January 24, 2010

Giving the Man His Props


Sometimes I think we take our significant others for granted. Sometimes it's easy to have someone jump to help you and always put you first because you are the one with the health issues. Even though they have their own health issues, yours seem to be more of a danger. My husband got yelled at by his mother when he told her that his sick wife was his priority. I have driven myself to the ER more times than not. I have had surgical procedures that I didn't tell him about so he wouldn't worry about getting off work. He worries far more than I do.
Today I wanted to put a face to the man I blog about, Rob. He is a gentle, sweet and loving person. In fact if Rob had A fault it would be that he is too nice. Too nice to people in the past who took advantage of his kindness and generosity.
I try to do everything I can to make it up to him for all his help. In my previous marriage, I was on my own. When I had cancer my ex took off ONE day the entire time. I had to get family members to drive me for radiation treatments and doctor visits though his employer told him he could have all the time off he needed and he would be paid for it. It hurt me so much that he didn't choose to be with me during those difficult days. My son was only three years old and a handful.
I look back and wonder sometimes how I made it through those times. Rob has been through so very much with me. He has NEVER once failed to offer to be with me for anything. He has never complained that a high percentage of our salaries go for medical expenses. He is kind and supportive and all I could have hoped for and so much more.
So today I stop and say thank you. You're the best and I appreciate you more than words can say.

3 comments:

Susan C said...

It's great to see a picture of Rob.

Most of us are young, strong and healthy when we first marry. I didn't really understand the meaning of "in sickness and in health" at that time. It was like retirement and old age - something an eternity away.

I love seeing someone who can truly embody these words and to observe how you both show love, respect and support for one another.

Aine Butler-Smith said...

Wonderful testament to what sounds like someone who is "one of the good ones".

Aine

Missie said...

That's a great picture of you two. Rob looks like a nice guy. Hold on to him tight!