The good n the bad

This week I have been more places, done more things, had less sleep than I can remember. I am actually leading a hectic lifestyle now and managing that. It feels good! My son's birthday went well with me getting him a cel phone. He is frugal and had not spent the money himnself. He seemed to really like it and I arrived at his apartment about 5 on his birthday with the cel phone, a vegetable lasagna and a cake. We had dinner and I straightened up a lot before I came home.
Yesterday one of Rob's coworker's husbands had some major heart surgery. This poor man had two major heart attacks several years ago and has never been able to work since then. He went for a stress test and his heart stopped. They rushed him from that hospital to the hospital where I had my heart surgery. They discovered he had an anneurism and some more blockages. Yesterday they repaired all the problems and thankfully he is doing well. This man's poor wife works both a full time job, a part time job and has two teenage children. I don't know how she does it. I called her at the hospital and told her that we would bring her dinner that evening. I worked, ran to the store, got the ingredients, came home and made my old and wonderful receipe for macaroni and cheese and made brownies for them. She gave me detailed directions but I decided to mapquest it instead. Not realizing that she lived just across the border with a different address. Went to the correct street but wrong town. Thank God for cel phones. We got the right address and arrived only a few minutes late. They were so appreciative. I have learned the hard way when things like this happen don't call people and ask if there is anything you can do. They are too embarassed to tell you WHAT to do. Ask may I do so and so? I find that although people have family and friends who call to ask how people are, few do anything really helpful. This way they will have dinner for a few nights.
This afternoon we are going to visit my childhood best friend. She lives outside of Philly on what's called the "Main Line". This is the train line with the stops. The further outside you live, the more expensive it is. I am excited to see the townhouse she just got. She recently left an emotionally abusive husband and is going to start over. I am so relieved that she got herself out of that situation.
My son just called me. An early morning call usually means trouble. The landlord of his apartment has never liked him. He has some bicycles with motors on them. The landlord told him if he does not remove them by Monday he will evict him. He carries them on a bike carrier on his car and it seems the other neighbors don't like it.
I have told him he needs to rent a storage unit to keep them in. He wants to fill my garage up and I told him no. There is all my stuff in there and it's cramped now. I don't want to be falling over these bikes and motors. Besides the cat has his things in there. I love my son but I want him to understand that he has to find solutions for these things without it becoming MY problem. My garage in my old house was destroyed by things he did. I told him when I moved here that he would not be able to do that. I have things of his stored here already and he needs to think about these things before accumulating things and wanting someone else to take care of them. Although I know I am doing the right thing, I feel a twinge of guilt for not giving him an easy out. I know from the School of Hard Knocks parenting that the easy way out is usually the poorest long term option for the child. Yikes my son is over thirty when do I get to stop having to be an active parent? I am ready for retirement.
Well time to go see what the animals are up to. My lucky husband is sleeping in. We had a late night at the neighbors. It's sunny and gorgeous outside. A wonderful day is to come.......I hope. :)